When I was younger, the idea of my older sister getting married and moving out seemed like…well, the worst idea ever; and when it actually happened it was something hard to swallow. I am very close to all my sisters, and extremely similar and extremely different as only sisters can be. I knew that whenever she moved out, I’d finally move into her room which I wanted so bad! infact for a while that was the only thing keeping me from feeling sad when I thought about her leaving. The thought of life without her around seemed not just terrible, but simply impossible. I couldn’t Imagine life without her around…… and the day finally came! first up her traditional wedding.
When she was sixteen, she and my (now) brother-in-law started dating. When she was twenty six, he got down on one knee one beautiful evening on our trip to Lagos in December and asked her to be his wife. One year later, we all took that yearly december trip to Lagos, Nigeria and after all of my agonizing anticipation, the day finally arrived. I was a bridesmaid!!! another excitement that kept away the thoughts of my sister leaving. It was my very first time and I was so honored for it to be for my sisters wedding. Her traditional wedding was beyond beautiful, I watched my sister marry the love of her life in my fathers first compound in Imo state Owerri; Dikenafia Village. With a happy smile she carried her cup of palm wine and danced softly in search of her husband. It was such a happy day, never seen my dad smile all day but that day he was smiling from ear to ear.
I’m almost certain I cried more than anyone else after the church wedding, but the thing is — it wasn’t because I was sad. Yes, there was the pain that comes with waving good-bye to a good chapter in one’s life, but it was more tears of awwww look at my sister finally its happening for her; after over ten years relationship, long distance and all the other obstacles, it finally happened! they got married.
The wedding planning phase was intense, and YES my sister was a bridezilla lol, if she wants a particular thing it is in your best interest to get her that exact thing. Shout Out to her wedding planner she did a good job and did it gracefully.
Since I was on the internal side on planning my sisters wedding , I inevitably have a few ideas of do’s and don’ts by default for my own wedding. Overall My sisters big day was everything and more, most beautiful bride till date. My sisters wedding was so much fun, I wont be able to upload all her pictuers but these are a few best moments for me personally. her full wedding album will be going to her wedding website.
I have also learned to be okay with the occasional sting of loneliness. I know that if I need one-on-one “sister time” I can just ask for it. Besides, some things never change. My sister would drop everything in a heartbeat if I need her. What more does a girl need?
CHI-CHI OF NIGERIA